When I had the idea for this post in mind, I kept wanting to list the tried and tested: Don’ts. You know the list, you’ve probably seen it a million times before too. It’s that supposedly inspiring list of things you shouldn’t do when wanting to lose weight. Don’t eat carbs. Don’t eat sugar. Don’t sit still. Don’t. Don’t. Don’t.
It’s funny how something that is supposed to be inspiring and positive is actually jeopardizing your weight loss mission. We focus on the negatives without even realizing it.Over the past month, I’ve been doing a little self experiment whenever I go to the gym. To start with, I would tell myself the typical, so-called inspirational mantras that so many swear by.
“You’re so weak! Is that all you’ve got?”
“Look at how pathetic that is! Only 3kms on the treadmill?”
“Suck it up Cupcake, that ass isn’t going to burn itself away.”
What I found when I used these derogatory terms was that although I was still pushing my little heart out, I was demotivated by my effort. I never felt like I had done enough, even with sweat pouring off of my glowing face. I saw a fat, miserable girl in the mirror after my work outs and often thought of just giving up. We don’t realize just how much damage we can do to ourselves with our thoughts. You are the worst person in the world when it comes to belittling your abilities, and the one person you would actually believe. The human brain is stupid that way.
Then I changed how I spoke to myself.
“Holy Sh*t! You are so strong!”
“What!? 3kms on the treadmill in 10 minutes?! That’s incredible!”
“You pushed so hard at gym this morning, I am so proud of you.”
This simple change in how you speak to yourself will do the world of good for your self esteem. I am not even kidding either. I am the girl at the free weights talking to her arms. Why? Because my left arm is a little weaker than my right, but it gets the exercise form better than my right side does. So my weaker left arm is the smarter one, and I tell it that.
I’m the one whose legs are capable of pushing 55kgs and that’s a big deal! No really, that’s 10kgs less than what I weigh. And as crazy as I sound doing it, I praise my legs for being so darn strong. Because let’s face it, other people are going to tell you that you’re doing a good job, but are you really going to believe them?
When I changed the way I spoke to myself, I changed the way I felt about myself. I had more energy to push even harder at the gym. I had more determination to finish every one of those super sets (even though I thought I would die), and I loved myself more.
Start changing the way you speak to yourself. You don’t need to remind yourself of what you struggle with, because then you will always find something else to struggle with. Rather, start focusing on what you’re kicking ass with! Celebrate your amazing achievements and your incredible determination to succeed.
You are a force to be reckoned with! Own That!
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