To say that this week has been the worst yet is an understatement. Over the weekend, we suffered the loss of the pillar of my family and it has devastated us all. I’m not ready to talk about it yet, but I do want to share what it woke up in me.Losing a loved one is never easy, I’ve been down this road a few times already and was really hoping to avoid the hurt for a while to come. It’s easy to forget how quickly life can change, and we often ignore the days that pass as if there are in infinite supply. They aren’t, and the midnight phone call that I received on Friday night reminded me of that.
It leads me to start wondering about my life, where I’m going with it and what kind of legacy I’d leave behind. How would I be remembered? Who will remember me? Will I regret the life I chose?
These thoughts have plagued me since that fateful phone call, and it’s made me realise once again that we live on borrowed time. There is no guarantee that tomorrow will come, so what are you doing with the today that you’ve been given? Imagine knowing when you would die, what would you do with the time you had left to live? Would you start spending it by living? Here’s the thing though, we all know that death is coming – I mean, it’s inevitable. So why do we wait until the last-minute before we live? Hell, some of us don’t even start living the life of their dreams and that’s almost sadder than death itself.
Over the weekend, I found myself in a ball on my bed wrapped in a damp bath towel. I’d numbed myself so much that I just lay there for hours and let the day slip away. I’m allowed to because I am in mourning, right? In theory, yes but how is that honouring the life of your loved one? It doesn’t. Wallowing in regret is even worse, the heavy feeling of regretting not sending that message, not making that call and not saying I love you leaves a pit in your stomach. It left a pit in mine.
Are you ready for a truth bomb? Life is short. Sometimes its shorter for others and sometimes you’re given a full, long life. One certainty in life is that you only have this one shot at making it a memorable one (even with the reincarnation argument, this is the only time you have this life). What are you going to do with the time you have left on this earth?
So, my message for you today is simple – tell your people you love them, do the things you want to do and live the life you’ve been dreaming of.
Until next time.