Dear Diary

New Year, Same You

Are you still soaking in the aftermath of Christmas lunch leftovers and champers? Finally waking up from that week leading up to a new year where no one knows their name? Same, TBH.

ICYMI, I’ve been going through some pretty radical shifts in my life lately (thanks, Nervous Breakdown), and it’s leaking into my blog too. This radical shift made me see life through new eyes, and in turn, I see myself with new eyes now too. Guys, I am such a dick to myself, it’s no wonder my body, mind and soul had such a hard time last year. But, here I am – writing my first blog post of 2018 and I am so ready.

You should know that I’m not that big into resolutions because who sticks to those babies anyway? What I am really into is goal setting and the journey toward that goal – now that is something worth updating a Facebook status about, amirite? So, that’s what I am doing and what I encourage you to do too. To help you on your way, I thought I’d give you a few of the goal changes that I’ve started implementing in my every day, and welcome you to try them too.

Do you even meditate?

I first discovered the benefits of the app “Calm” when Paul was in Thailand and I couldn’t sleep. My paranoia and anxiety made my life so difficult that sleeping was almost impossible just because Paul wasn’t here. This app also offers mindful meditation, which was just a feature that I had no intention of using. Since the 1st of December, 2017 I have meditated every night with only two exceptions. I didn’t realize I needed to, but I had an overwhelming need to “take it to the mat” and have found that I am way calmer than before.


I thought that meditating meant levitating while chanting “ohmmm”. I was terribly misguided and am really glad that I realized this – plus, I’ve roped Paul and Riley into my practice too, so I’m guaranteed 15 minutes of silence in my house! #MomWIN!

Mind your P’s and Q’s.

Another practice that came from my meditation discovery is a gratitude journal. I have started listing 5 to 7 things that I’m grateful for every night. These literally range from being thankful for my cat snuggles to the roof over my head. I realized how important this was when my 11-year-old astounded us by innocently proclaiming that he was more thankful for family time than his gifts over the festive season. To put it in perspective, we got that kid just about everything on his wish list.


So, get yourself a little notebook that you can write your gratitude journal in each night. It’s not complicated at all, just let the words flow and you’ll realize how much you truly have to be thankful for.

Find your Tribe.


OMG, this one is probably my favourite because I have started attracting the most amazing humans into my life. Some who have been right under my nose the entire time, and I’m discovering that they’ve been on the same vibe the whole time.

This is important because it can be insanely difficult to stick to your goals if no one else in your tribe gets your vibe. Also, totally rhyming on purpose. Having just one new person who can relate to your new goals is the start of a support structure you need. You don’t need to banish your old friends just because they’re on a different mission to yours, but it doesn’t hurt having someone extra in your corner who gets where you are trying to go in life.

*Side note, totes open to coffee dates and chats.

Feed your body.

Suddenly, my insta feed looks like something a Kombucha drinking foodie threw up on. I wanted to work toward losing weight over the festive season without depriving myself and thanks to my flippen, excellent coach, Kayla van Rooyen, I did. Using the macros she calculated for me, and IIFYM approach and my renewed need to cook, my family and I ate delicious, healthy meals every night and I even managed to sneak in some treats.


I’m 2.5kgs down and felling a shit tonne better (still haven’t stopped swearing though). I’ve even started planning what recipes to share with you lovelies, so that’s exciting! I’ve kicked off a 30-day bone broth gut cleanse thingy, but day 1 was a challenge and that stuff isn’t tasty at all. Let’s see how that goes.

Guys, it is so easy to start strong for a new year and hope that the outcome will be different, the trick is to recognize that your effort makes the difference. It is a new year with new possibilities, but you’re the same ol’ you. You’ve always been wonderful, you just have to recognize your potential.

I love hearing from you, so leave your thoughts in the comments below. Follow me on Facebook and Twitter for more real talk, snappy snaps and fun.

Until next time.




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