I’m rubbing off on my son in the worst way. I didn’t think it was possible, but last night while washing dishes, Riley told me that he wasn’t happy with his body.
I went cold at those words because he’s 12, he shouldn’t be obsessing about him being chubby. I know that our kids mimic what we do, not what we say they should do and I know that I’ve spent far too much time obsessing about my weight and what I look like.
I want my child to have a healthy body image, but how is that possible when his mother has the worst body image of herself? Something has to change, and it has to change soon before this unhealthy obsession in Riley becomes so much more.
It starts with realizing that you are in charge of how your kids think and feel. What you tell yourself on a regular basis is what becomes normal for your kids. Obsessing about being a certain size let’s your kids think that they need to do the same thing.
Friends, this is how cycles continue.
So, what can we do?
Firstly, it’s important that you encourage healthy living and an active lifestyle – you don’t need to have a crazy diet or training plan for you to be healthy and you need to let your kids know this as well.
Turn healthy living into a family activity by encouraging being active at home.
Love yourself in public, no – not like that. Be aware of what you are saying to yourself, it’s so easy to bring yourself down out loud, but why don’t we lift ourselves up publicly too?