Showing Up for Self-Love

We are in the second month of 2019 and it is all systems go for a lot of us. At this point, we’ve either smashed this goal setting business for the New Year or have failed at our resolutions. If you’re the latter, this post is for you.

It’s likely that you set yourself some 2019 goals, they might look a lot like the ones you set for yourself in 2018 and that’s okay too. You might be taking the same goals into 2020 with you, but at some point, you need to stop the goal setting cycle.

You’ve probably heard me say that last line a lot – you need to show up for yourself.  What I haven’t said yet is that you will never show up for yourself unless you start believing you deserve it.

gades-photography-1063453-unsplashWhile you are commenting goals and one day on your fave influencers Instagram, there is a 50/50 chance that you’re are neglecting your own goals and ambitions. Why? Because you’ve already given up looking like a 20-year-old fitness blogger when you started comparing yourself to her. You are letting the curse of not being enough weigh down on the promises you made to yourself. Whenever you start letting limiting beliefs take control of your journey, you stop showing up for yourself.

Whenever I am doing a talk about self-love, I always ask the people I’m speaking to one simple question:

Would you speak to your best friend the way you speak to yourself?

If the answer is yes then you are either really awful, or you’re the best version of yourself already, but chances are that you wouldn’t dare. That’s because we know that we treat ourselves poorly. We are very well aware that what we say to ourselves is hurtful, mean and unnecessary.

How does this stop you from achieving your goals? Because you stop believing that you are worthy of following through, you feel like you are not enough. This limiting belief that you have about yourself often acts as the crutch that stops you from achieving the goals that you have set for yourself. You stop showing up for yourself.

Stop me if you’ve heard this before.

“What’s the point, I’ll never look like that.”

“It doesn’t matter, I’m not good enough anyway.”

“I can’t earn more money, that kind of thing doesn’t happen to me.”

“She’s so much better than I am.”

The lies you keep telling yourself have become your truth – it needs to stop.

I’m not judging, I’ve been there too! You need to stop putting off living the life of your dreams because you think that you don’t deserve it. You deserve the whole world! You were not put on this earth because you’re not enough. You were not given life this morning because you aren’t worthy.

You deserve to reach your goals and you deserve to feel amazing about them, it all starts with believing your own worth.

I love hearing from you, so leave your thoughts in the comments below. Follow me on Facebook and Twitter for more real talk, snappy snaps and fun.

Until next time.






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