It’s Women’s Day in South Africa while I’m typing this out. This morning we slept in a little, I’ve been lazily scrolling through Instagram, speaking to my cat and belittling myself.
You know, the usual.
While I was speaking to Olivia this morning – giving her love and snuggles – I realised something profound about the way I speak to her, it is dripping with love.
That doesn’t seem like a big deal, right? But when I think about how I speak to myself, it is vastly different. If you walked into my home this second, you’d find two kitties curled up on someone’s lap. You’d hear the three of us telling them how beautiful they are, how loved they are, how wonderful they are.
And they are, they are absolutely all of those amazing things and then some. Just ask them, we tell them every day. It got me thinking though, how often do I tell myself these things? How often do you tell yourself these things? I’m going to bet that it isn’t all that often, amirite?
Are you talking to yourself the way you would talk to your pets (assuming you’re a pet person, that is)? Do you speak to yourself the way you speak to your children? Are you praising yourself and your worth the way you praise those around you?
It’s really easy to ignore that you need the same tender love and care that you give so freely to everyone and every fluffy Nu that crosses your path. I mean, I do it all the time.
I would never dream of saying the awful things that frequently come out of my mouth to my kitties, my son or even a damn stranger on the streets (unless they deserve it). Why then do I belittle myself and my worth so freely and easily?
Raise your hand if you can relate, or call me out if you can’t. Bottom line is that it is so important to be the kind of kind to yourself that you deserve and you do deserve kindness. I’ve long battled with low self-worth and I’m not afraid to share that journey to self-love with you.
But how do we recover from filling ourselves with so much self-loathing? Well, it’s not going to magically make you love yourself more, but I’ve found that journaling definitely helps. I’ve created a little printable that you can use to kickstart your daily self-love check-ins! It holds you accountable to being kinder to yourself, honouring your emotions and being grateful for every little thing.
What’s not to love about realising your worth so simply? Download it below, and let me know if it helps you or what you use instead. We are all winners when women support each other.